This is a post I wrote for the Life Lesson Series that I was invited to participate in by Abubakar Jamil. This series offers a wealth of knowledge through the thoughts and reflections of over 75 insightful people. I offer mine here.
My Quarter Life Crisis
The age of 25 is around the corner as my “quarter life crisis” takes place. There’s been a complete shift in my value and belief system. When these changes started happening, some people I knew joked that I wasn’t supposed to be having these life altering thoughts yet. That I wasn’t supposed to be questioning my life path until my mid life crisis much later in life. It’s too late though, the cat is out of the bag. My quarter life crisis is here, and I’d much rather it happen now than later. I’ve compiled a list of things I wish I had known earlier in life, because they could have greatly and positively influenced my life.
Don’t be afraid to fail
Failure is not something to be afraid of. If I’m not failing then I’m not taking enough necessary risks for success and pure awesomeness. If I don’t fail, then I’m being safe. I’m being complacent, and this lack of failure is failure in itself. If I fail I’m on the right track.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
You can’t please everyone.
There are enough good people in the world that you don’t have to waste time on the bad ones. Some people are crazy. No matter what they will never be pleased. I used to try and please everyone even if it meant casting aside a piece of my own soul. I’d tell myself that it’s not worth giving up even the tiniest infinitesimal quantity of my personality to make someone like me. They like me for me or they can take a hike. There really are so many incredible people in the world! Be loyal to the good ones, and don’t be afraid to purge the bad ones.
Time is a currency that appreciates in value and simultaneously decreases in quantity over the course of your life.
I’m still young, but it’s only recently I have begun to understand this, and organize my life in a way where I value and cherish time. It feels good to grasp this now, because I used to be on a life path where I would have learned the meaning of this all too late.
Following your dreams is worth every risk
Safety isn’t safe, and risky really isn’t so risky. Following my dreams is worth it. Dreams are pure awesome. Pragmatism has its place, but its okay to put pragmatism in its place.
Stop watching TV now.
I haven’t really watched any TV in about 5 years. I don’t own a TV. I don’t have cable. I think TV is one giant waste of money and time. I would tell myself to stop watching TV immediately. I’ve never been more productive and had more free time to spend time with the people that I want to, and do the things I enjoy since going cold turkey from the tube. The earlier in life I could free myself from the tentacles of the evil machine, the better.
Learning a language is one of the most incredible and life enhancing skills possible
I started taking Spanish because it was required in school. My mom and grandfather in particular particularl told me how important another language was. I didn’t take that seriously until years later. After studying abroad in Spain and Argentina, traveling to Colombia, Mexico, hosting tons of Spanish speaking Couchsurfers, and having a Puerto Rican girlfriend, saying that Spanish has enhanced my life beyond my wildest imagination is an understatement. I’m now on to French, and taking lessons with a private tutor. I wish my younger self could see the ridiculously amazing benefits and life altering explosion of possibilities from learning another language. Epic. Just epic.
Your parents are incredible
They want the best for me. They are my greatest allies in life, and want nothing but what they feel is right. They hold me in the highest regard and have the most earnest and genuine intentions.
I do not have regrets in life. I don’t believe that having regrets helps anything. The past can’t be changed, only the future can. However, sometimes it’s nice to think and reflect.
- What things had you wished you’d known earlier in life?
- What things do you think you will wish you’ll tell your current self now in 10 years?
- Of those things you think you’ll tell yourself in 10 years, what are you doing today to change the reality so they don’t become a wish?